This week, I participated in some fascinating discussions and lectures. The lecture on empathy and the therapeutic relationship was particularly thought-provoking. I highly recommend the book Empathy: What It Is and Why It Matters by David Howe.
I’ve always considered myself empathetic, which is probably a good trait for someone training to be a counsellor. I strive to understand people’s circumstances rather than merely explain why they are the way they are, though I do find myself doing that occasionally. I’ve been told countless times that I am a good listener and easy to talk to.
As I’ve grown older, I’ve made a conscious effort not to react immediately when someone behaves aggressively or belligerently. Instead, I become curious about what might happen in their world or day that has led them to act this way.
We also discussed several counselling skills, such as challenging and focusing. These skills are simple in concept, but they can yield powerful results in a therapeutic relationship.